#23 When the Hard Questions Come

Helping Kids Face What We Can’t Fix

In the most recent conversation on the Resilient Souls podcast, I spoke with Jane Oundjian — founder of the UK-based support organisation, The Bereavement Journey, and someone who’s walked closely with families navigating grief and loss.

One thing she said really stayed with me: that children often ask the hardest questions at the hardest times.

It took me straight back to my own journey — to the endless questions my kids had when their mother was sick.

Those hard questions are just another layer to the already heavy weight you carry — the illness, the grief, the accident, the diagnosis — whatever it is that’s turned your world upside down.I had children aged 1, 7, and 9 when their mother was first diagnosed with late-stage, metastatic breast cancer. They were 5 (just), 11, and 13 when she died.

In between, I was often faced with questions like:

How’s Mum doing?

When will she get better?

Why isn’t she getting better?

… and on and on. ......

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